The “One Day When —-” Game

May 18, 2012 at 11:39 am 8 comments

One of my all-time favorite yoga teachers* is Marco Rojas. I’ve been taking his 90-minute class two to four times a week for a little over three years now.

Why do I practice with him so much? Because he gives us a spiritual warrior workout of pertinent wisdom and tough asanas. I literally leave his class with my brain and body buzzing with awakened energy. Seriously, he’s guru material!

Tony Robbins says, “You become who you spend the most time with.” Maybe I’m just hard-headed (coincidentally my last name in Japanese does mean “oak tree.” That’s not exactly a thin trunk!) but it seems the stuff Marco has said over the years is really seeping into my everyday life.

One of his classic lectures goes something like this: “You may think, Oh…one day when my blue prince shows up, life will be perfect. Or – oh I’m not wearing Donna Karen, or I’m not blonde enough, or skinny enough so I’ll practice this pose later. No! You want to practice it NOW!”

I’ve heard this speech dozens of times now and I’ve always thought: Pfffftttt….that’s not me. I don’t evaluate the worth of my life based on a dumb fairytale that’s highly valued by society. Not me! And seriously? People make excuses not to practice depending on how they look? Ha! This doesn’t apply to me but, hey – at least I’m somewhat evolved!

Not so fast there oak tree….

Marco’s imprint recently crept into my awareness in another way as I was sitting in my apartment and noticed five nail polishes on the coffee table, with no idea how long they’ve been there, and I thought: Oh – just leave them. I really don’t love this apartment or this neighborhood. One day when I’m living downtown and loving it, I’ll be more organized with these loose ends. This place is so small and no one is coming over so who cares? I’ll practice that habit later…

You know how long I’ve made this excuse and have been wanting to move? YEARS!

In fact, I’ve come to realize I play this “One Day When —-” game quite a bit. In the form of:

One day, when my career is back on track, I’ll feel more satisfied with my life and I’ll eat healthier. But for now I’m going to stuff my face with these french fries, or a bag of chips because I need to taste something good.

One day, when I’m going to important places I’ll dress up more often. I’m not going anywhere special or seeing anyone important today so why bother? I’ll just throw something on for this hum-drum day.

In all of this I’m saying I’ll practice a better life later and put it off, and put it off, and put it off. Why?

Now I realize Marco’s speech isn’t really about doing the postures in class. It’s about how we live for tomorrow instead of being thankful and present in the now. How we judge our everyday lives as not great or not what they should be and then the seeds for “not special” are planted and that feeling festers and grows.

“One Day When” is just the future version of “Once Upon a Time.” Past or future tense, I’m telling myself a story in the form of a fairytale that’s in my imagination and not in the now.

I want to caveat that I don’t mean “dressing up” as in wearing fancy, designer clothes. I mean showing up fully present with excitement, open to the possibilities in whatever form that takes. In essence, dressing your energy from the inside out. If we dress for the dull, we get…dull. If we dress for delight, we get….delight.

Do you know when I committed to living now like I dreamed of in the future, and I organized the loose ends around my apartment, made food choices as if I were that healthy, content professional, and dressed in the morning as if the day were going to be special; everything feels better. I find myself saying, “I feel great! This is the best!” and I’m filled with immense, positive, optimistic energy.

In another strange coincidence, as I was working on this post, this quote appeared in a Oprah newsletter: “Are you waiting for someone to give you permission to live more fully and healthfully?” – O Magazine

{Enter Twilight Zone music}

What’s your “One Day When —-” game and how can you move what you want in the future into the present?

*Please know when I asked Marco about naming him as my “teacher” he clarified that he’s just the vessel. The teacher is really inside of us. I get what he’s saying in that it’s up to us to take the information and apply it to how, and where, we need it. Regardless of the title, or label, Marco says smart shit! His Facebook Page can be found here.


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8 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Soph  |  May 18, 2012 at 1:05 pm

    One day I’ll click ‘like’ on your blog! Oh wait, I just did ;)

    seriously, though, excellent message.

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  • 3. January  |  May 24, 2012 at 10:21 am

    Thank you for this message. Love it!

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    • 4. Evolving Yogi  |  May 24, 2012 at 10:28 am

      Thanks for reading! So glad you enjoyed it! Namaste…

      Reply
  • 5. Kristy  |  July 14, 2012 at 1:50 pm

    I agree with your “teacher” the best teachers stir us from within, leaving a fingerprint for the lasting impression as we let the lesson unfold by opening our heart, our mind… I used to live in the “one day” but my life is now, so I embrace that. Be well! In Lak’ech :)

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    • 6. Evolving Yogi  |  July 14, 2012 at 1:56 pm

      Congrats on your progression and thanks for reading! Namaste…

      Reply
  • 7. Maia  |  July 3, 2013 at 9:28 pm

    One day… I’ll stop saying ‘one day’. ;)

    The time is always NoW. I placed an image in one of my recent posts. It goes…
    “If you wait to do until you’re sure it’s right, you’ll probably never do much of anything” ~ Win Borden
    Namaste, Jenn. =)

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    • 8. Evolving Yogi  |  July 4, 2013 at 11:22 am

      Love that quote! Enjoy your weekend. Namaste…

      Reply

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